My Blog for Choice post is up

What it all boils down to is this: Abortion is never an easy choice. Ever. It’s not made lightly, on a lark, for fun. It’s life-changing, one of those turning points that you never forget, a moment where you stand on a crossroads. You pray to whatever gods you believe in, and you do the best you can for yourself, your partner, and your unborn child, and then you do whatever you have to do to never ever be in that situation again. And you go out and fight to make sure that other women still have the same choices that were available to you when you needed them. And you go home at the end of the day and hug your family.

The whole thing is on my other blog, here:


Angry grrl, I'm angry too.

Just tried to watch C-span this morning

8:30am - Kim Gandy, National Organization for Women, President & Susan Muskett, National Right to Life Committee, Congressional Liaison

-I was too angry.

Angry that we are still spending time and energy on this issue when we should be moving ahead on so many others.

Angry that the anti-abortion crowd doesn't spend it's resources instead on sex education so fewer women are faced with having to make that choice.

Angry that they don't care what happens to unwanted children after they are born.

But especially angry that they think they have the right to control anyone beside themselves.


I'm angry that even though, at 39, I grew up in a world where abortion is safe and legal, I see it slipping away, inch by inch. I'm angry that I'm having to fight the same fight, again, that our mothers and grandmothers already fought and won once before. I'm angry in part that in a lot of cases, it's our fellow women who are arrayed against us.


Thank you AG -

and lofT, also. It is tiresome and we should be angry. I think we are going to get more tired and more angry, and I think we are going to see Roe v. Wade overturned. It will only be at that point, I'm afraid, that women wake up.

However, I think that women who are in their early teens now will be the ones who make the difference that we're wishing we could make now. It seems women in their twenties and thirties today (ok, it's a broad generalization -- and pardon the horrible pun) do not understand what their mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers experienced by way of sexism and other inequities in the law. They don't get it. They won't get it, either, until the right they take for granted now is taken away.

Of course, it won't make any difference how many women realize the significance of this issue if those women still marginalize the issue, refuse to make it a litmus test, sit back and say, "it won't happen to me."

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke

Hope versus fear

I hope you're wrong about Roe being overturned, but I fear you're right, and it's just a matter of time. :(


What's up with that

is that these people are probably not accomplishing anything more than making themselves look like the asses that they are.

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke

How right you are!

Part of me is amazed that someone out there actually makes little plastic fetuses, but then again, another part of me isn't. If you know what I mean. :/


At the risk of drawing

the attention of our new-found friends from the r3Volution over here, this is exactly why I've become an anti-Paul person:

I'm angry that I'm having to fight the same fight, again, that our mothers and grandmothers already fought and won once before

In the last few months, I've had to argue with several liberals about basic core issues that have shaped this country in our recent (and not-so-recent) history. Why? Because they're so in love with the renegade anti-war aspect of Ron Paul, that they try to rationalize his other, much more conservative ideas.

Like a pro-choice female acting like a reversal of Roe v Wade wouldn't be that big of a deal, because if a person's state outlawed abortion, they could just, you know, move to another state if they didn't like it.

It's like being thrown into a fricking time machine or something. :(


That's a time machine I don't want any part of.

In the discussion I did hear on Washington Journal this am,

the women from NOW pointed out that if Roe v Wade was overturned, rich people would simply fly to France or wherever and have it done. It's the least among us who would suffer most. As per usual under "conservative" values.


Rich Nicaraguan women can still fly to Miami for abortions, despite that country having enacted a ban on all abortions, no exceptions, back in 2006. Since then, over 100 women have died, but hey, the "pro-life" movement doesn't care about them since they're not fetuses...


This is the bitter truth, and it tells us all something about the nature of human beings, whether male or female, whatever creed or ethnicity. We tend to dismiss what we don't think is going to affect us personally. Some of us saw the movie "Hotel Rawanda." There was an ugly little piece of reality expressed in the screenplay, a scene between two characters in which the fact that Americans would not stop eating their dinner while their news networks ran stories of the genocide taking place. "We," the news audience, might pause between forkfuls to say "too bad," but we'd forget about it by the time Jeopardy came on.

This is the reality that we face with the issue of abortion. It is much, much easier for a person to "care" about a fetus that he or she has no intention of supporting in any way, shape or form than it is for the same individual to "care" about whether half the human race is afforded the right to make decisions for themselves about their bodies. The latter concern requires attention, mental energy and activity. The former requires nothing but a shrug.

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke

And it's much easier to email a picture of a dead bloody baby

It's also much easier to send someone (me) a photo of a dead bloody baby than it is to, oh, adopt an unwanted child, or work to make contraceptives more available and affordable, or work to get comprehensive sex ed in all our schools. I have comment screening in place on my main blog where I posted my long Blog for Choice yesterday, and yes, someone did email me a link to a picture as described. That's why I screen comments on that blog; I chose not to send that one through.


Ok - not a full-fledged blog. This is my post for choice.

28 years ago, I had an abortion.

I'm not going to go into the reasons why I made the decision - I'm just going to say that the decision still stands as the most difficult of my life, and it was not easy to reach.

I want to write for a minute about why I don't talk about this very much.

I don't talk about it because the minute I say the "A" word, I become an issue, not a woman. The minute I say the "A" word, everyone, on every side of the issue, thinks it gives them the freedom to give me their opinion, of me, of my decision, and often, the state of my soul.

I am not an issue now, and I wasn't an issue then. I am a woman, and I have the right to make decisions about what happens to my body. I support other women who make choices - choices to terminate pregnancies, and choices to carry them full term. I'm sick of women being "issues" and not women.

And that's that.

Be the change you wish to see in the world. --Gandhi


I think that's why a lot of women don't want to talk about it. I don't talk about it in terms of personal experience for a similar reason -- which is that my personal experience or yours is beside the point when the discussion is about whether or why women ought to have this right (and sadly, that is how the question is so often raised, rather than "what gives someone the right to deny her this choice," but there it is).

One of the best and worst forms of argument is that which relies upon anecdote. Anecdotes are helpful for getting people to relate, but they are terrible when used as a rationale by some politician in a committee for denouncing or supporting a given cause. In those contexts as well, we are insulted by being reduced to examples of this or that "good" or "bad" reason rather than being regarded as individuals with autonomy who don't owe anyone, not a committee, nor a panel of judges nor the neighbors any explanation at all.

We've all heard the accusations that this is something we use as a birth control method, as though it were nothing to hop up on the table, place your feet in stirrups and undergo this operation. As though we were not individuals with brains and hearts, but rather, "vessels" rebelling against God's plan for us to be fruitful and multiply.

This is why, perhaps ironically, I have some respect for the anti-abortion crusader who refuses to make exceptions for rape or incest. He/she understands that it isn't about why. It's about whether or not this decision belongs to that woman. The idea of having someone weigh her rationale and then pronounce it sufficient or not is just another example of the fact that she has no choice. Under such a principle, why couldn't a panel of judges also direct that someone may *not* have a child?

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing
-Edmund Burke


Under such a principle, why couldn't a panel of judges also direct that someone may *not* have a child?

Indeed yes. People don't like to talk about our history here in the US, and in North Carolina, of eugenics and forced sterilizations, but we were still doing them here until the 1970s. Thousands of people were sterilized against their will, some against their knowledge even. See for the Winston-Salem Journal’s five-part series on NC’s eugenics program.

Because if the government is allowed to mandate that you MUST have children; the other side of that coin is that they can then mandate that you MUST NOT have children. E.g., "Mrs. So-and-so, you have two children already, we're afraid you'll have to terminate this pregnancy." Or even, "We're tying your tubes now."

Thank you

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I agree, the minute a woman admits to exercising her rights, she becomes a walking issue, not a woman. I blogged about this back during April, which is Sexual Assault Awareness Month: It's easier, relatively speaking, to say "I was raped" than it is to say "I had an abortion." Ponder that, if you will.

Yes, even with all the Tawana Brawleys in the world, even in the face of the Duke Lacrosse scandal, it is easier for some of us to admit to being what portions of society would (incorrectly) call "damaged goods" than it is to cop to having had a perfectly legal medical procedure.

Ponder that, if you will.


An average of 1 in 5 North Carolina children live in poverty. Two thirds of North Carolina counties meet or exceed this rate. Guilford is a typical county with a 20.9% rate and 22,067 children living in poverty. The rate rises to 1 in 4 for Cumberland County, 1 in 3 for Richmond County to 1 in 2 children living in poverty in Robeson County.

The conservative zeal for zygotes hardly seems to extend to living children.

Of course it doesn't

Once the cord it cut and the kid hits open air, it becomes a "welfare problem" and the GOP doesn't care about it anymore.